Week Nine – People Work – David

How can one learn to better work with people?

The best way to work with people is by putting yourself out there with people and doing things with them. I work best with people when I have begun to understand who they are and how they work. I believe that the best thing one can do to work with others better, is to communicate well. In my own relationship with my fiancé, we have little meaningless argument. We always resolve these by communicating to each other how we feel and what not. Through this experience we have learned that it is best to always communicate how the other is feeling, before and argument arises.

Have you ever heard of the ARC Triangle? This is a very useful term I learned about when I was younger; it helps me cope with people better. The ARC triangle is called a triangle because it has three related points: Affinity, Reality, and (most important) Communication.

Affinity - an emotional response; it is the feeling of affection or lack of it, of emotion or misemotion connected with life.
Reality - solid objects; the real things of life.
Communication - an interchange of ideas between two persons who can receive, relay or send a communication.

It is a triangle because without affinity there is no reality or communication. Without reality there is no affinity or communication. Without communication there is neither affinity nor reality.